The more you are identified with thinking, your likes and dislikes, judgments and interpretations, which is to say less present you are as the watching consciousness, the stronger the emotional energy will be, whether you are aware of it or not. If you cannot feel your emotions, if you are cut off from them, you will eventually experience them on a purely physical level, as a physical problem or symptom.
If you notice, people who carry a lot of anger inside without being aware of it and without expressing it are more likely to be attacked, verbally or even physically, by other angry people, and often for no apparent reason.
Its important to keep track of what's going on inside you at this moment. It is very necessary to focus ones attention internally and feel the energy of the emotion within. There is no need to analyse, just mere watching would suffice.
One of the main tasks of mind is to fight or remove that emotion, what ever it may be - likes and dislikes can be summed up in one term - "pain". Anything in excess is always an imbalance in the emotional energy within. Too much pleasure or too much pain is always an imbalance within. The mind can never achieve its goal - to remove that "pain". all but it can achieve is to only cover it up temporarily. The harder the mind struggles to get rid of pain, the greater the pain. One has to understand that the mind can never find a solution, because, it itself is an intrinsic part of the "problem"
The more practical approach would be to not try or not seek to become free of the "problem". Become present. Be there as an observer of the mind. Be awake, Here and Now.
The greater part of Human pain is unnecessary. It is Self-Created as long as the unabsorbed mind runs your life. The Pains or Likes or Dislikes is always some form of nonacceptance, some form unconscious resistance to what is, on the level of thought, the resistance if some form of judgment. ON emotional level, it is some form of negativity.
The intensity of pain depends on the the degree of if resistance to the Present Moment and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified with your mind. That is to say "Unabsorbed Mind" When you are not watching your thoughts - "Not Watching"!
The better way is - the more you are able to honor and accept the NOW - Present Moment, the more you are free of pain, of suffering - and free of egoic mind.
All you have to do is just WATCH - thats all. you don't have to do a thing to solve your problem. Feel the emotional energy within - when you are aware alive watching within, the pain fades away, you are least affected by it.
Accept - Then Act. What ever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it, make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform you whole life.
Every emotional pain that you experience leaves behind a residue of pain that lives on in you. it merges withe the pain from the past. which was already there, and becomes lodged in your mind and body. This, of course, includes the pain you suffered as a child, caused by the unconsciousness of the world into which you were born - that is you did not know to watch within or watch you mind and its thoughts.
The reality is that the "pain" wants to survive, its survival depends on YOU - it wants you to be unconscious - Unabsorbed Mind - Not watching it. It is its food - Your unconsciousness - your remain unawakened! (Be awake, Be alive the moment).
Pain can only feed on pain, Pain cannot feed on Joy - your natural state - state of awaken-ness, alive.
Remember this, the pain is afraid of CONSCIOUSNESS, ALIVENESS, Be here and now. Be the Observer. This means It (Pain, Likes, Dislikes) cannot use you anymore. It can use you only when you are unaware, sleeping, unconsciousness.
WATCH!
Nagaraj