Krishna(ksksat),
You have asked:
And one must take pre-caution to stop with arathu paal. portul paal and kaamathu paal not good for sadhaks, especially kaamathu paal.
I always study only Arathu paal. what is your suggestion? Kaamathu paal is not good for sadhaks ?
vaiyathul vaazhvaangu vaazhbhavan vaanuraiyum deivathul vaikka padum
thondrir pugazhodu thondruga adhilaar thondralin thondraamai nandru
Tiruvalluvar is a great sage and was a householder and the valluvar Vasuki relationship is one that is always given as an example of how a model couple should conduct themselves.
One may safely go to even a harem in Tiruvalluvar's company with the supreme confidence that it will benefit one.
With that bit of an introduction,I will just say that all that you have asked are related in one way or other-and if we deeply understand life and living we will find everything falling into place.
The Basic principle is this-Expansion is life and contraction is death.All experiences that expand our consciousness are steps that help us to root out the limited confines of egoistic living and attain freedom.The Dharma Artha(Porutpal) kama and Moksha gradation is based on this principle.He who lives life as it ought to be lived attains to the Highest good-
வையத்துள் வாழ்வாங்கு வாழ்பவன் வான்உறையும்
தெய்வத்துள் வைக்கப் படும்.He who lives in this world as life ought to be lived
Shall abide as consciousness that permeates space.
Tiruvalluvar is giving a wonderful clue here that all that is required is not some 'super human' sadhana or 'special trick' to achieve liberation.All that is required is to live life
as it Ought to be Lived.This in itself is enough!
The Great Sage says that All life is Yoga-There is nothing like so called separate Sadhana that sets it apart from temporal living.Man has to live in this world-He uses the phrase -வையத்துள் வாழ்வாங்கு வாழ்பவன்-He has to live like a man and live rightly.
He does not define this-He leaves it to the seeker to ponder;Elsewhere he says:
ஈதல் இசைபட வாழ்தல் அதுவல்லது
ஊதியம் இல்லை உயிர்க்கு. verse 231
To Give (oneself) and to live harmoniously-Other than this
There is no expansion for the soul.
-To Give and Live Harmoniously are the very food for the soul and if one does this,such a one shall abide as consciousness forever.
He uses the word
வைக்கப் படும் and not
வைக்கப்படுவர்-The plurality of souls is only apparently so,what exists is one consciousness ,undivided,pure and simple.
He adds:
தோன்றின் புகழொடு தோன்றுக அஃதிலார்
தோன்றலின் தோன்றாமை நன்று couplet 236
If you must be born, be born for glory.
Those born without it would be better off without birth.
It is clear that Life has to be Lived purposefully and the 'Glory' referred to is not public fame-Publicity is here today and gone tomorrow.Glory is that which lasts-The Glory of The Buddha,Jesus christ,Prophet Mohammed,Yajnyavalkya & Maitreyi,avvaiyar,Tiruvalluvar,Sri Ramakrishna & sarada Devi.Sri Bhagavan-We can immediately sense what Tiruvalluvar means.
It makes us think of their parents who have yielded such glorious sons and daughters for the good of this world.These parents have also lived such lives of glory and only then they can yield such offspring.
Now these Glorious ones apart from the exception of Jesus ,the Christ are born of Sex only.This means Sex is something that can serve a noble purpose and it is incumbent on every one born of sex to understand its sacred precincts as well.It is only when one understands anything one can master it and learn to deploy it as and when necessary.
It is clear that Tiruvalluvar has dealt with the whole of Life and life cannot be compartmentalized -Each one has to see where he or she is and take what is appropriate with the objective of 'Expansion' and not stagnation.It is stagnation when we do not flow with life and are caught in 'Dos' and 'Donts'.It is stagnation when we endlessly go on repeating the same experiences day in and day out-eating,labouring to earn income ,snatching some pleasure amidst a dreary Living,Sleeping-again endlessly repeating until the day we exit this world.
Tirukkural gives a whole lot of insights to understand the basic Principles of Living,and living it fully and without compromises.
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