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Title: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Graham on June 19, 2016, 06:53:14 AM
Dear Members,

It is with great sadness that I let you know that my father, Graham Boyd, passed away on Thursday 16th June at 4.40pm Indian time. He had reported back in January on the forum about his cancer diagnosis and that he was taking treatment. He underwent 3 months of Chemotherapy which did not help with the tumour and then had started Radiotherapy. This proved too painful for him and would also have been of no real benefit. Due to the complexity of the tumour in his shoulder it was impossible to operate on without my father losing function of his dominant left arm. He finally underwent minor surgery to cut the nerves that were trapped within the tumour in May, to try and reduce the pain he was feeling. Sadly, this did not work and it also meant he lost use of his arm which was what he was trying to avoid.

I came out to be with him in Tiruvannamalai on the 8th June and have had the privilege of taking care of my father in his last days of life. Even through this period, he remained as happy as was possible and in his last few days, he was no longer in any pain.
He died peacefully at his home, looking at Arunachala and is now in the safe arms of Bhagavan.

He will be greatly missed and was loved by many in Tiruvannamalai and all around the world.

As my father made you aware in January, I will continue to take care of his website and forum for at least the next 10 years (hopefully longer). Please bear with me though as I have very little experience in wesite matters, but will do my best to maintain the integrity and beauty of the website that my father has spent the last 20 years developing.

Best Wishes
Candice Faqir x
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: drsundaram on June 19, 2016, 07:59:24 AM
so kind and  nice of you, Sister

you are doing yeoman service by   choosing to  continue  the spiritual legacy of your father,  our dear Graham.

I pray Shri Arunachala Bhagavan to blesss you in all your endeavours
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: eranilkumarsinha on June 19, 2016, 01:38:58 PM
Sri Graham Boyd:
"In the early years I began to entertain idea that I had acquired skill in the art of image restoration and that I could consequently earn a livelihood from it (in addition to carrying out this sadhana); little did I comprehend that there is no room in sadhana for worldly ambition and that any such idea destroys in an instant the merit of service to the Guru. This is a hard lesson to put into practice, because even the slightest satisfaction with results arouses pride and all the worthless ideas that follow it. Bhagwan always insisted on perfection of effort which leads to perfection in results, and this can only be achieved when the mind does not interfere with the work."

Dear Sri Candice,

Though we expected our dear Sri Graham to recover from this dreaded disease, the Divine willed otherwise. However, it is heartening to know that you are prepared to continue to take care of this website and the forum, dedicated to Bhagwan Sri Ramana and His Teaching, which were developed so beautifully and wonderfully by your father. None could be perhaps in better position to carry forward the spiritual legacy and great work of your father and our dear Sri Graham. There could not be a better news in these grim hours than this for Sri Bhagwan's devotees all over the world. Thank you so much, dear sister.

Dear Sri Candice, when Sri Phillips said to Bhagwan that he lost his son in the war, He compassionately taught thus: "To find consolation, you may reflect: 'God gave, God has taken away; He knows best.' But the true remedy is to enquire into your true nature. It is because you feel that your son does not exist that you feel grief. If you knew that he existed you would not feel grief. That means that the source of the grief is mental and not an actual reality."

Yes, I know it is not easy to be consoled by sermons when such dear one, as Sri Graham is to all of us, is suddenly snatched away from us by cruel death. But we do not have control over our destiny, and we have to simply accept what has been ordained for every one of us.
Having said as above, I also wish to add that I do not accept that Sri Graham is no more, for Sri Bhagwan has driven home the truth that the sense of immortality that everyone feels deep within the heart is not due to body, but on account of the truth that deathlessness is our real nature, and we falsely ascribe it to the body losing sight of what is really immortal within us all, whether we have realized this truth or not.

Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Jewell on June 19, 2016, 06:46:17 PM
Dear Candice,

My deepest condolences to You and Your family.

One of our friends wrote about it yesterday,and i was truly sad to hear about this news.
It was a great shock for me to hear he is ill,few months ago. But i thought about it for some time, and remembered his words that all happens for some reason,with some deeper meaning behind it,and i strongly believe in this. I believe he was not afraid of death, and that he knew the real meaning of life and death itself. He devoted his whole life to God and Truth,and i believe he finally arrived where he wanted to be,Home.
We all loved Sri Graham.
I will be forever grateful to him,for creating this website in the first place,for all advices,posts he wrote,and most importantly, for his presence alone.
He was the man of great integrity and compassion,the man of Truth,and,indeed,he will be greatly missed...

With all love and prayers,
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Nagaraj on June 20, 2016, 10:11:04 AM
Dear Candice,
Ever Since I heard about Sri Graham reaching the Lotus Feet of our beloved Bhagavan, i have been in his remembrance! I have had a few exchanges with him on and off the forum as well. He was down to earth and so grounded at all times. It is taking some time for us to accept this fact that he will no longer continue in his physical presence, but his legacy and his spirit continues and will continue for ever. His contribution towards the restoration of Bhagavan's pictures is truly immeasurable and it is impossible to comprehend how many people are so blessed to see Bhagavan's pictures. In every picture of Bhagavan we know Sri Graham's devotion and touch is present! His contribution to so many devotees worldwide by way of this website is yet again impossible to measure its value. We cannot comprehend how many people worldwide are being pulled towards Bhagavan and Sri Graham's websites are a gateway to Ramanasramam. Sri Graham has collected and presented most of the works of Vedanta and Upanishads, Puranas, and not to mention Bhagavan's teachings.

Sri Graham had shared some times his creations in pictures of Arunachala, of high resolutions with quotes from the teachings of Bhagavan.

For the few of us here who have been having Satsang through the Forum medium, Sri Graham had been a silent observer, rare contributor and acted whenever necessary. I was glad to see yet again another message from the same name Graham through you. We are certainly very happy that you are continuing in his place. It gives us great happiness in sense that you will be able to continue in the same spirit as Sri Graham.

It is indeed a blessing for Sri Graham that he could spend his last days with Bhagavan! Bhagavan has been a witness to everything and we all know that it is all a leela - divine play. while death is only for the body, there is no death for the spirit, soul! While all the talks of Vedanta and Scriptures have their place, and we are aware of the deathlessness of the Soul, still we miss Sri Graham very much! If it is ok, may i request you to post a small picture of Sri Graham?

Maharshi: Siva says, 'By My command.'  Those who live here need no initiation, diksha, etc., but get Mukti...
Such is the command of Siva.

Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Balaji on June 20, 2016, 12:57:23 PM
My deep condolences.  I met Mr Graham 2012 at his residence, Thiruvannamalai.  I took a photo.
Om Namo Bagavathe Sri Ramanaya
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: polka on June 21, 2016, 10:29:17 AM

Dear Candice,

So sorry for your  (and our)  loss. He was a gem of a person and am grateful to him for all that he has done to bring Bhagavan closer to so many of us. 

A big hug to you.


Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: ksksat27 on June 21, 2016, 04:34:24 PM
Graham shared to me very uplifting articles known only to his very close circle of friends. His life was a demonstration of his love to Bhagavan Sri Ramana Maharshi.  Liberation or re-birth , I am sure forever He is in Arunachala Ramana , as That.
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Ravi.N on June 21, 2016, 08:30:43 PM
Ms Candice,
Graham was an earnest devotee.We are deeply indebted and grateful to him for providing us  this forum and the opportunity to share/deliberate on the teachings of Sri Bhagavan and the other great ones-Teachings that help restore our true identity as the Deathless,immortal Self that we truly are,now and forever.It is indeed a matter of great solace and satisfaction that you had the opportunity to be of service to your father during his last days on Terra Firma,and that too in Holy Arunachala forever hallowed by the presence of our Beloved Bhagavan....and that Graham spent his last days in peace and happiness.I am sure that Graham would have had the utmost satisfaction and reassurance  that you are around to carry on the administration activities of the website-a thing that was dear to his heart.
From your perspective as a daughter,there can be nothing better to assuage the feeling of loss of your dear father than to be of service to a cause so dear to him;the fact that you are serving his cause means that you are continuing to serve him and this brings his blessings which you can tangibly feel as a serenity of mind,steeped in peace.
We wish you all the very Best.Please do let us know if you need any help or support.May Sri Bhagavan's Grace be ever with you and your family.
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: atmavichar100 on June 21, 2016, 09:38:49 PM
Dear Candice

Sri Graham's loss is everyone's loss here and we will definitely miss him and we are very grateful to him for starting this forum that is a form of onlne satsang for all of us . I am sure that the Divine Grace that guided Graham to start and maintain this site will continue to guide you also . Will do our best to offer whatever co-opreation and help possible from our side . When normal people die we use the phrase "May his soul rest in peace " but for Graham I need not say that as I am very sure he is fully merged with divinty that is Arunacahala .

Om Namo Bhavate Sri Ramanaya .
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Anand on June 21, 2016, 09:48:00 PM
Ms.Candice ,
We wish you the very best in carrying forward the legacy left behind by our beloved Sri Graham.
I am sure, like others have said, that he would have merged in Bhagavan and Arunachala , to whom he dedicated his life.
Having said that , still in a certain way lile Bhagavan does over all of us, he will be watching over all of us and particularly you ,guiding you, in this noble endeavor.
As a child Graham Sir would have held your hand , such that you do not fall.
Now he will guide you and prevent any mishap ,as you navigate this virtual world, as the new Forum administrator.
Best regards,
Anand Sundaram.
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Child of Arunachala on June 25, 2016, 07:51:43 PM
Dear Candace:

My sincere wishes to you and family on the passing of your father. He was an angel, wasn't he? He is now!!!

In addition to dying in Tiruvannamalai, he died on a Thursday, which is the Guru's day and at 4.30 p.m., which is considered pradosham time. There is a daily pradosham and bigger one every two weeks. Very auspicious.

I pray that Arunachala gives you the strength to live your life going forward. 


child of arunachala
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Balaji on July 01, 2016, 05:12:08 PM
Remembering Graham Boyd
By Dennis Hartel

I first heard from Graham Boyd in early 1995. He had invested a great deal of time digitally restoring a series of photographs of Bhagavan and sent me these along with a letter. His daughter Candice was then working for a computer company and he somehow got enthused to use her computer to see how he could improve the quality of Bhagavan's photographs. Quality was the one word Graham was obsessed with, and ultimately this obsession proved to be of great value to Sri Ramanasramam over a period of 20 years.

Graham had first sent all his restored photos to Ramanasramam with a similar letter. He received no response. Obviously the letter and photos did not reach the right person there to elicit a response. He was discouraged, searched the internet and found Arunachala Ashrama, Bhagavan Sri Ramana Maharshi Center in New York. Again another letter and package of restored photos were sent. This time it met with an appreciative recipient and a correspondence and friendship ensued, one which decidedly changed the direction of Graham's life.
In 1995, Graham was invited to come spend the summer in Nova Scotia to work on the restoration of Bhagavan's photographs. He accepted and ventured out of his British home and traveled west to the wilds of Canada. He had not traveled out of Britain before and never had he met another devotee of Ramana Maharshi. When he arrived, he said he did not know how to act or what to say. Everything was different and strange in this totally unfamiliar, natural and simplistic rural setting of the Ashrama.

Graham was sincere and he weathered the isolation and ruggedness of the place with humor. He was a strict vegetarian, but would only eat canned food. At the time he believed that vegetarianism was a certain way to liberation, moksha, and that was the major aspect of his sadhana till then. I walked Graham down the road to the cows feeding on the grass in the field next to the Ashrama and said, Prostrate here, for in that field (the cows) there are so many liberated souls eating only vegetarian food. I believe he got my point.
Graham was also adverse to meditation. His was the path of service. Though we make meditation an integral part of the life in Arunachala Ashrama, he was unable to participate. I said Why not meditate for some time each day  It will help you, He had a matter of fact reply which was typical with Graham but surprised me. Meditate Oh, I tried that. It doesnt work.
Of course, Graham, it doesnt work; you have to work AT IT,  I said.

That year Graham restored many photos and also produced digitally colored photos of Bhagavan which were excellent. He was a perfectionist in everything he did. I believe he was the first to take up the task of digital restoration of Ashrama photos. There was only one actual color photo of Bhagavan ever available, whereas all the other color prints we see of him were hand colored and reproduced. Graham took up the digital coloring of some popular photos of Bhagavan and whatever Graham did, he did it to the best of his ability in the way he conceived it best done. He would rarely compromise on materials used to restore and print the photos. About colors used, he would research each item in the photo to determine the correct color to be applied. He was quite successful in this endeavor.
Graham again visited Nova Scotia in 1996. While on this visit we printed thousands of his restored photos for distribution. Somehow, again, he lasted another summer in this remote Ashrama, surrounded by fields, forest and hills. His obsession with the avoidance of insects was most entertaining to us country folk. Not for him, though. But he did enjoy being the entertainer and our rustic, uncultured, country ways provided him with a storehouse of material to humor us.

As a result of his visits here, meeting devotees and living with them, he gained the confidence to visit Sri Ramanasramam in India. We felt that he would definitely be of far greater service there than here. We wrote to the Ashrama, introduced him to the President and suggested they use him for the archival restoration of photos.

They agreed. So in the winter of 1996 and 1997 Graham made his first visit to Bhagavan's abode. He took up photo restoration in right earnest. His proficiency in electronics, construction, organization, etc., was appreciated and gradually he took on a greater number of roles in the development of the Ashrama's computer room, archives and publications. He hosted Sri Ramanasramam's first website at the address of He took this responsibility seriously, knowing full well that the digital age had arrived and through this medium Sri Ramana Maharshi's life and teachings would be broadcast to the world. On this website he developed many different ways of introducing Ramanasramam and Bhagavan to seekers. Moved by the suffering of folk in the Tiruvannamalai area, he was sincerely involved in helping genuine charities and people in need. He quietly helped many of those in need personally, and through the website supported several charities.

On the website he also wrote his own first impressions of Tiruvannamalai  the town, the people, the traffic, animals, snakes, insects, etc. Graham would get a bit carried away at times and some of the descriptions were, true to his nature, tragically bizarre and negative. After reading it, I sent him an email and thanked him. Why? It is the experience of many devotees who have been visiting the Ashrama for decades that the place was now becoming increasingly crowded with all types of people coming to see the Ashrama. In a humorous way, I thought his graphic list of mishaps and accidents might serve to slow the tide of congestion in the Ashrama. Of course, as Bhagavan willed, that did not happen.

Graham had a caustic, blunt way about him. Whatever he thought was inadequate for the job he would not hesitate to unload his criticism on the object or even the person responsible. He did this to such an extent that I told him it appears to me that you are not happy unless you have something to complain about! And it was true! That was his nature. But no matter how much he criticized or ridiculed you, the beauty of it was that you never felt offended. There was no malice in his behavior, just a relentless obsession to do everything as perfect as possible. He felt that everything connected with Bhagavan's legacy  his teachings, his archival artifacts, photos, publications, website and Ashrama  should be restored, preserved and maintained at the very highest possible level at whatever the cost. That is how he expressed his devotion to his Master, and many devotees like me appreciated this.

On Thursday, 16th June, after several months of enduring an aggressive cancer, at the place he called his home, Arunachala, he was absorbed into the lotus feet of Arunachala-Ramana. He will always be remembered for the work he had done with a determined and uncompromising dedication.

from the newsletters new york ashramam
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Ravi.N on July 01, 2016, 09:30:13 PM
Nice article.Thanks for posting.It just recalled to my mind what Sri Aurobindo once said:"No one can write about my life because it has not been on the surface for man to see".
This can be said about the inner spiritual being in every earnest sadhak....this inner development and position cannot be seen from outer activities and stances.
I never met Graham in person nor had any sort of correspondence with him;yet,I sort of KNOW him,the devotee can be intuited from his love for Bhagavatham,his responses in this forum to some devotees who have expressed despair regarding their apparent lack of progress in Sadhana,etc.
It is certainly not required that everyone should 'meditate'(what is meditation by the way!)...more important is Shraddha,the Faith and diligence ....and this is the 'inner fire' ....what the Vedas refer to as 'Agni' (agni meelE purohitam....meaning agni is the arch priest....the leader of the inner journey) is this inner fire that is paramount and Graham had this in a great measure ....and this is the true 'Graham'.This 'inner fire' does not pander to outer beliefs and idee fixe and is often at loggerheads with it.
Truly a wonderful soul.
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Nagaraj on July 01, 2016, 10:31:17 PM
Thanks Balaji, for sharing a beautiful article on Graham.
Truly a blessed soul! What a force of grace that pulled him from Britain here!

Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Balaji on July 02, 2016, 12:36:49 PM
An articile from Saranagathi Newsletter, July 2016

Obituary: Graham Boyd

Born in Leeds on 13th July 1949, Graham came to the Ashram in the mid-1990s
and began work on archival photo negatives. Self-trained in sound and electrical
engineering, Graham was instrumental in introducing computers to Ashram and he
designed the Ashram's first two websites way back when website-designing was still
quite new. In his youth while working odd jobs, Graham struggled to find inner peace
amidst the entanglements of modern life. But in the early 1980s when he came across
Mouni Sadhu's In Days of Great Peace, his life changed overnight and he began to call
himself a devotee of Bhagavan Sri Ramana.

Graham was untiring in his service to the Ashram and among his many projects
were recording the Ashram Tamil Parayanam, digitising English publications, filming and
editing the biography on Bhagavan's life in the documentary entitled Eternal Light and other video project on
Arunachala Giripradakshina. His contribution in establishing the Archives was invaluable. It was Graham who
initiated the restoration of archival photographs of Sri Bhagavan that devotees the world over enjoy today. Ever
a friend of the poor, he quietly helped the needy.

Diagnosed with bone cancer in November 2015 and having undergone treatment in Chennai, Graham
was blessed to be able to live out his final days in Tiruvannamalai where he merged at the feet of Arunachala
on 16th June 2016 in the presence of friends and his daughter, Candice Faqir of Scarborough.
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Jewell on July 02, 2016, 06:24:00 PM
Quote from Sri Ravi:

It just recalled to my mind what Sri Aurobindo once said:"No one can write about my life because it has not been on the surface for man to see".
This can be said about the inner spiritual being in every earnest sadhak....this inner development and position cannot be seen from outer activities and stances.

I love this thought,and find it quite beautiful and truthful. Inner life is most important of all,and no one can say with any certainty what happens in someone's heart and soul. Sure,it can be sensed from some gestures and similar,like Sri Ravi said,from that sensitivity and compassion. But it needs,also, very sensitive and perspicacious eye to see all this. Our heart and being has a much greater depth and richness,that even we ourselves cannot know it completely. It is known to itself only...

About meditation (from Mr Dennis Hartel's letter),well,meditation does not need to include certain posture,or spending time on some particular place with lots of people. I remember Sri Graham posts about his severe exercises for concentration,and talk of many hours spent in practice of selfenquiry. The real meditation is actually abidance,and it can and should be done all through the day. We could look at this person and could not at all discern he is meditating.
I believe it all comes in phases,and every period of time brings a little different approach.
When i think about it,i came to see that mind should not be brought to the point it begins to do some things automatically,and to made them just a habitual routine. Every practice,or meditation should be done with total absorbtion. Otherwise,it learns to camouflage itself very well...

it is this inner fire that is paramount and Graham had this in a great measure ....and this is the true 'Graham'.

I also saw him in this way... (

And many thanks dear Sri Balaji for posting Sri Graham's picture!

With love,
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: latha on July 05, 2016, 07:33:55 PM
Dear Candice,

I was travelling in India and was not aware of the sad news until now. I pray to Bhagavan to give you strength. Sri Grahamji has done a wonderful service through this forum, among many other services. As Bhagavan's devotees spread around the world, we are thankful this forum has brought us all together. I am sure Sri Grahamji is at peace now, merged with Arunachala.

Please let us know if you need any help with the forum.

with love and prayers,

Om Namo Bhagavate Sri Ramanaya

Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: rajvarma on July 06, 2016, 04:03:02 PM
Dear Candice,

Came upon the sad news only today. Also read the article on Graham in "The Maharshi."

Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: deva on August 24, 2016, 10:55:10 PM
Dear Candice,

I am very sad to hear the news of Sri.Graham.I came to Bhagavan Ramana Maharshi a few years back and read a lot about his teachings from this forum.I am indebted to your father for this.I have also suggested this forum to many earnest seekers.

Sri.Graham will be in our hearts as long as we will live.I also thank you very much for taking up the responsibility to manage the forum.

Deva Kumar.K
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: Jewell on June 24, 2017, 06:39:30 PM
Title: Re: SRI Graham Boyd - Sad News
Post by: KAUMAARAM on July 08, 2017, 01:31:03 PM
May Sri Graham Boyd attain Sadgati.  Om Shanti Om